The Accidental Girlfriend

For Scott: who asked for a short blog.

Admit it. We've all had a "casual" or two. The guy who is your great friend, who you accidentally sleep with after a night at the bar, or on your birthday or when you take that "best friend" vacation together.

The person who everyone (especially his parents) can't understand why you just aren't together. (Best potential in-law parents ever by the way.)

It gets tricky. Once in awhile, he starts to treat you like you're his girlfriend and all the lines get blurred. He takes you for a nice dinner and pays. And you wonder what's going on. Then, you get more than confused and start to wonder why you've been keeping this great guy on the sidelines when he should be playing centre.

Because he is a great guy. In so many ways. But the reason you're fuck buddies and not his girlfriend is because there's something missing. You can try to make it work, but it won't. And that's where you end up being the accidental girlfriend. Spending entire weekends there and letting him make you food. In the weird in-between of relationship and friendship. And that's fine in your 20s. But we're old now people. Let's grow up.

I have a friend who's gone through this in the past (Ok it's me. And all of my friends). And I have to say, you just shouldn't sleep with your friends. They are precious and should be valued. And once you lose one...everyone else can go with it.