Ok, I think what I need now is a little more input from y'all. You can post anonymously, that's fine. Just give me a little feedback. Post a comment.
What do you want to hear about? Say if, perhaps, there's a chance a lot more people will read this soon. What reasonates? What is non-important? I know there are thousands of you out there reading me. I don't know who and I don't know why, but I have to think it's because I strike a chord somewhere when even if you haven't been through the same experiences in the same way, you've been where I've been and felt what I felt. And I think the biggest reason you probably can relate to me is because I'm real.
I don't want to sugar coat it. I've documented my journey as real and honest as I could. Do I try to look on the bright side, yes. This morning, my guy and I watched a couple of TED talks (totally worth checking out, I'll be on there soon) and one of them was on happiness. This guy spent his educational years studying happiness (of all things) at Harvard. He suggested there were a few things we should do every day to increase our happiness: 1) gratitude list: write down 3 things every day you are grateful for 2) keep a journal 3) exercise 4) meditate 5) reach out to someone to thank them or tell them why you're grateful to have them in your life. He said you don't need to spend more than 5 minutes on each, the important thing, is to do them all, every day.
Do that for 21 days, and then see how you feel. This past week, I went to a dark place after the incident with my mother. I did not try to live a healthy life. And I thought it was justified, because of what I went through. I see now though, that each of us can continue to make things better, regardless of what life throws at us. It all comes down to how we choose to react. Tonight, I had dinner with one of my best friends and her dad, who recently lost her mom/his wife too soon. We spent the night listening to stories about her and laughing, as I'm sure she would have wanted us to.
Sometimes the best we can do is just be there for each other, give a hug, listen. And hope that when we need the favour returned, they'll be there for us. From what I've seen, that's the reality of the world we live in, not the abnormally.
We are all trying so hard to complete our own puzzles, but we need some give and take from the people around us to make everything fit. Let's play the game together.
I really like your message, especially the part of give and take to make the puzzle complete. Everyone goes through times when they feel they are all alone ...how different their day would be if someone would just give them a big smile, a hug, and let them know they are not alone. I may not always be able to do this for you in the flesh but I am always there in spirit. I may not always have the right piece of puzzle to complete that section of your life at that exact moment but I will always be there, by your side, until we do find the right piece that fits. You may not always feel or see that I'm there, but I am. Just look for me in your thoughts and you will see that I'm there. And I have to sign this anonymous because I don't know how to post any other way. But you know who I am. I'm the good looking one lol !
ReplyDeleteI really enjoy all you write. But to add more people it would add to a puzzle...a bigger picture of what and who is out there just too shy to speak.
ReplyDeleteI started it! Working on it girl, just been too slammed to write much. I'll send you something this weekend. : )
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