Mean Girls

I wasn't going to tell this story, but it's been awhile and I have nothing really to write about besides my life, so here we go. (Click here for background music on this one.)

Once upon a time, I worked at a restaurant on the weekends and I made some really great friends. They were all young and fun and I spent an entire summer living back in my 20s that I missed somehow being so church girl responsible.

There were 4 of us who were particularly close, we somehow became branded as "J.'s angels", because there were 3 of us and one of him and we were inseparable. The girls would crash at my apartment, we all went out for drinks after work on the weekends, I even threw a big birthday party for one of them with streamers and balloons and cake. I helped the other one fix up her resume and update her LinkedIn profile and look for jobs. We used to get our nails done together. I thought we were going to be friends forever, or at least for a long time.

But then something terrible happened. I started dating J. I didn't mean to, really, but he was sweet and kind and one of the best friends I've ever had and almost by accident, we found ourselves together.

Apparently that wasn't a good thing. All of a sudden, I was out of the group. They would show up at Betty's, fall all over him and completely ignore me. I'd come over for one of his BBQs and get dirty looks and the cold shoulder. Did they want to date him? I don't think so. I tried to pretend it wasn't happening for months, because I'm a grown up, I'd just smile and try to be nice, complement their new hair style or their outfits. It wasn't happening though. I'd obviously crossed a line and couldn't go back.

Y'all know I pride myself on having been able to re-build a life that includes great, loyal friends that I trust and never have to worry about the possibility that they could leave me. And I'm pretty easy going. After awhile though, the game we were playing with these girls got old.

One particularly challenging weekend, one of them got drunk and I asked her why they act the way they do. Her response? Well,...we knew him first. Men of the world be warned: if you ever dare to date someone who hasn't known you longer than the girlfriends in your life...you are in trouble! Don't even think about meeting a woman you don't currently know or trying to be happy with her, or your girlfriends will make her life a living hell.

Ok, that was a bit dramatic. Not all girls are like that, thank the Universe! Some girls are actually happy to see their guy friends happy or in love, and a true friend will always have your back and be supportive, EVEN IF they don't agree with your choices in life.

Now...whatever happens, is up to him. I however, am done playing nice. If we can't all get along, I'm removing myself from the equation. I haven't been in high school for a long time now and I have no desire to go back. Ladies, if you're wondering where he is though when he doesn't show up at Betty's...he's with me. :)